A Four Year Journey – The Stories I’ve Told


It’s my anniversary!

Exactly four years ago, I gave birth to this blog, and we’ve had this weird relationship ever since. I’m always doing this dance between keeping my life private, and over sharing. Between sharing my journey and keeping relationships sacred. This is my medium for telling stories – for reflecting, if you will, and of course it’s most fun to converse with you, my readers! I like hearing your thoughts.

When I started this,ย I was newly out of an eleven year relationship, relieved, and – now I can say this, having what turned out to be a fling with a younger man who I called “Prince.” I’ve alluded to this many times. Albeit indirectly. This may sound bananas, but that relationship set the tone for what turned into a three and a half year period of sporadic dating – not with him. He moved on and had a baby with woman closer to his age. I’ll stop there. But wait, this guy badgered encouraged me to start the blog. I finally said ok, and came up with ‘My Female Persuasion’ based on a song lyric from a Beyonce’s Run The World.

And the earliest post I wrote outlined a stream of anticipatory thoughts leading up to a woman being penetrated by her new lover for the first time.

I enjoy writing about relationships. And based on what I’ve written, and dialogue we’ve sparked, I’ve gotten tons of messages asking for advice – to my surprise. Since when do boo’d up women want advice from a single woman?

To be honest – I started viewing my dates as “stories” after a while. Like okay, what kind of quirks will he reveal? What kind of lies will he tell? What does he want from me? What would my readers find interesting about him? Will this lead to sex? (99.9% of the time, the answer was a resounding Hayle NO!) Remember the guy who wanted to choke me? Or the creepy dude who lied about his age because younger women (like me) found him unattractive?

This other guy wanted to get married – before we ever saw each other in person! (And we never did, because he couldn’t buy a plane ticket at the time.)

I could tell some tales. Truth be told, I’ve had several people have tolde they miss those funny date night recaps, and getting first hand insight intoย  different types of men (and their fetishes). Oops! It was fun for me too.

I’ve sprinkled in some writing advice, a few updates on my life, and even fitness advice from a celebrity trainer.


I met a beautiful man last year. (Whew! So glad I was patient!) He got the crazy side-eye from me on our first date – and a bit of a lusty eye too! In his words, at this stage, I’m “doing some things I’ve either never done, or haven’t done in a long time.” He’s right. I’ll give examples later. Now, before I go off on a tangent about LB, I’ll say I’m thankful for the process. I learned to get really specific about the kind of partner I needed to grow forward with, while embracing my alone time. Communication and irresistible energy are nice to have, but reciprocity and commitment to one another seal the deal.

I’m thankful that I’ve had so many witnesses and friends to chime in and laugh with me along the way.

Y’all rock!

Dating stories are few and far between these days. (I did fill you in on my trip to Atlanta with LB though), and I’m still evolving as a writer – sharing stuff like this lately:

Hopefully you’ll hang with me for another four years. There are great things brewing on the horizon that I can’t wait to share!

As always, if there’s a topic you’d like to see covered on the blog, hit me up.

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17 replies

  1. Happy anniversary! Many more to follow!

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  2. Aye!!!!! Happy anniversary bunny. So many stories I remember reading I’m looking forward to the next 4 years and seeing how much your life evolves. Congratulations again girl. Xoxo

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  3. Happy anniversary!! Man time sure passed by quickly! I enjoyed the read each and every time.

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  4. Happy blog anniversary!

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  5. Congrats! On that note…. I do miss your stories and I been waiting for the comeback.๐Ÿ˜‰ I’m so happy for you! Through your years of writing , you have inspired many people and gave a lot of people some very necessary information. I bet many people can relate to your blogs. Really, what do we need with a man that can’t afford to come see us?! Lol.. Love you girl!๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’ž

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    • Lol. Hahaa! I know that’s right! Nexxxtttt! He called a couple months ago to see if we could still have a first date. Really?

      No comeback on the dating stories! I want my current relationship to LAST! (He’s so sweet!) Lol. But you know if anything major happens, I’ll post the happy/good news here! ๐Ÿ™‚

      Thank you! I really do hope I’ve managed to inspire someone! Love you! Xoxo


  6. Congratulations! Yes, yes, keep it up! who knows, someday you could be a relationship guru! Here’s to many more years of blogging!

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  7. Love it. I learned some new things. Thanks for sharing.


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