hi 2014!!

I hope you all brought in the NEW YEAR the best way you saw fit!

Welcome 2014!

Thank you all for rocking with me. I blogged more in 2013 than I ever did in my whole life!! Shared quite a few dating stories and some insight on relationships, love, live, romance etc.

Looking forward to sharing more with you this year.


l never set New Year, New Me resolutions because for me self-improvement is continual. I’m always striving to be better!

But — I’m thinking of taking some acting classes (as a little girl, I dreamed of being an actress), will possibly start a Masters program this year (creative or professional writing and/or finance), and finish writing my memoir. I will likely host/ produce my first poetry salon. Performing makes me happy. (So does logging beach time.) And — I’m always working on fitness goals. Always!!

Oh, because I write about dating and the single life —  I should mention that I’m open to finding a suitable partner in 2014. The single life has been very rewarding for me and I’ve embraced it, but I think I’m getting close to meeting a good candidate!! Yes, optimism!

Going forward, I will do more of what makes me happy and focus less on perfection because it’s part of what enables me to keep my guard up.

“Perfection is a disease of a nation… Strip away the masquerade. The illusion has been shed. Are you happy with yourself? ” -Beyonce, Pretty Hurts

2013 was not without surprises.

–My ex-boyfriend (of 11 years) had a massive stroke in August and is still paralyzed on one side. We were separated for two years by then, but I went into slight shock and had plenty of mixed feelings. I wrote about him here and here. Once he recovered speech, he called me and confirmed what I was feeling – from his perspective. We took one another for granted. I wrote about his girlfriend too.

–This past November, my mother lost her ability to stand and walk – she had bone spurs on her C-spine (neck) that were pressing on the nerves. She underwent surgery and is in a nursing home recovering. The great news is she’s walking again and doing better.

On the flip side, I spent plenty of time with family. I’m looking to do even more of that going forward. I never want to take anyone for granted – that’s a horrible feeling.

We can’t get time back. All we have is now. Cherish the moment; avoid the pain of squandering them. Love people while they are here.

Cheers everyone. To health, happiness, prosperity and all the good stuff!

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13 replies

  1. Love your thoughts today. Love people while they are here. Very true. Try to do that every single day but always need a reminder. Happy 2014 to you, my new bloggy friend. Blessings!


  2. Yay!! I can not wait to read more great posts for 2014 from you and why did my boyfriend findout about that guy in my post? I will tell you more about it soon! Happy New Year girl!!!! Glad 2013 went well for you!


  3. What makes perfection a useless goal is not in it’s general impossibility, but its impossibility to create happiness. Assume that right now you are perfect. There is not one goal that hasn’t been met and no flaws you can think of. What do you do with your life now? What is there to strive for. I imagine perfection being sad and boring because it strips all action of meaning.

    And with that, I wish you the best 2014!


    • Omg, perfection being sad and boring? Ouch! Lol. I don’t think perfection in certain things is useless, especially when it comes to your craft. But at that same time, aspiring for perfection can paralyze stifle you. BEING perfect all-around is an impossibility. Funny I’m listening to Beyonce’s song Flawless right now. “I woke up like this!”


      • I don’t know if perfection is really achieveable anywhere. Even if you get 100% on a test, there’s always something that could have been better. If you are perfect at your craft, then there is no room to grow and get better. Everything is the same. But then, I’m the type of person who is always working toward improvement. If I had nothing to improve upon, I’d have no goals. I don’t know what I would do with myself at that point.

        Sorry, I didn’t meant that to come off harshly.


        • I’m the same way – always working on self improvement, and I always have goals. A type ‘A’ personality. True statement as far as having room to grow in your craft. It helps that we are constantly evolving and being influenced. What’s perfect today might not be perfect 10 years from now, but — I think we can aspire to be the best we can be, at whatever stage we’re at. And I think striving to be as good as possible, has its merits – greatness, but that takes a lot of sacrifice. When I think of people who perfected their craft, I think Michael Jackson, Steve Jobs, etc. Even Sean “P. Diddy” Combs.


  4. bathroom selfie 101 must include a duck face


  5. Ah, Happy New Year! You had quite the 2013… but I have a good feeling about this one.
    PS you are gorgeous! Duck face and all 😉


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