In two and a half years of sporadic dating, I’ve had lots of conversation and learned plenty about men, and a lot about myself. I decided to share a few common questions I get on dates. Here we go.
1. Do you watch sports? I’m always honest in saying that I might watch the final game of whatever sport it is. They ask “so you just don’t know what’s going on, or you have no interest?” I confess that I’m not interested. (Insert painful on their faces, here!) I know it’s important, but I’m not willing to sit out in the cold and watch football, or suffer through a baseball game. If they NEED that, well…
2. Do you cook? Valid question. Very few men will want to eat take-out every night. I usually say “I CAN cook, but I don’t make elaborate meals often. I don’t enjoy cooking anymore.” I’m gonna have to work on this response, because they generally don’t appreciate it, or the rare man will say “oh, no worries. I got that. I don’t mind cooking.” (insert MY smiley face here.) Honestly though, I’d cook for that ONE I choose. Yes I will.
And here’s a question that I don’t get as often, but it always surprises me:
3. What are you going to teach me? I’m glad men see me as an intelligent woman, but I usually tell them that you learn something from everyone. And you generally don’t know upfront, what that will be. They agree. Not only that, they start thinking about what they bring to the table as far as teaching me. The last guy I hung out with said “that’s true. I’ve done a lot of traveling and learned a lot. I can share that with you.” (Swoon.)
And we already know about this pesky question:
4) Can you send.me a pic? That either comes before the first date, or right after (like the same night). Once, I got asked at dinner. I wrote about this here.
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I wouldn’t see cooking or not cooking as a prob if it’s just casual dating. I don’t think a guy should even care to know if he doesn’t have any long-term interest…unless those are just questions to fill silent gaps.
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Lol. Kenny, I’m a gorgeous, intelligent woman. Of course they think about long term prospects.
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I’m gonna pretend you didn’t even say that :). Ok cool, I’ll roll with that. Question though: do you think that guys see you as a one night stand, or every guy you go out with is hoping to take it further?
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Lol. Ok. Hmm. I don’t think guys see me as a one night stand. If they do, they never vocalize it or treat me that way. As far as wanting to take it further, I think initial dates are to see if there’s the potential to take it further.
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So you don’t believe men come into the initial date already thinking to date exclusively?
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Sometimes. I went out with a guy recently who asked me to on a first date. He also wanted to know if I can cook and do I like sports. Can I dance? Do I want more children, etc. Not everyone is out playing games Kenny. Lol. I think a lot of men HOPE it will turn into an exclusive situation because they want a stable relationship.
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🙂 well that’s my point. I do believe most men want something stable. Not because they’re so wonderful and respectful, but they frankly don’t believe they can handle bouncing around
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That wasn’t your point, was it? 🙂 I agree. Bouncing around gets tiring. And eating out every night gets tiring too, so cooking is important.
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You talk about cooking is important, but from reading your article, you aren’t about to start cooking. So you have to clarify that.
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I’m willing to compromise on that. I’ve been cooking more than usual lately because my son broke his hand. And he’s very happy that I’m serving meals. It’s a male thing. Lol
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fun post!!! I am sure it is an “interesting ” world out there for those who are dating. I suspect it gets complicated at times!!! 🙂
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I’m lucky it hasn’t been THAT complicated! Well, once. 🙂 I’m glad I had this “single time.” I’ve gained perspective.
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Perspective can be very good!!! Good for you!
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How lucky am I that my man could care less about sports? Very, because I don’t care either. At most, I like to go to a bar now and then and watch the Iowa Hawkeyes kick ass, but it’s not something I need to do. I don’t even know how well their season is going.
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Lucky you. I can’t say I’ve been with a guy who cared that I didn’t watch (even if they did). It’s probably one of those things that most men will compromise on.
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if I did have a man who was really into sports, I wouldn’t mind following along. I would just be a fan of the same teams he’s a fan of. I’d want him to be happy which means I want his team to win.
…but I might also go in another room and play video games.
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I would do that too – cheer for their team, and want them to be happy. I usually watch the superbowl!! Lol. Sitting down every week to watch? No. (Or maybe if I’m cuddling with him. Lol) I would rather be doing other things.
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On the first date I just keep everything light and fun. My questions are usually just simple background questions so I can get a feel for the type of girl you are. A lot of jokes and a tell a few stories about my self so you can get a feel for the type of guy I am.
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I like that Reema. Fun and laughter always wins. 🙂
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You have me thinking hard. I don’t think I’ve asked any of those questions…so what do I ask…? :S
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What DO you usually ask? What’s important to you? Do tell.
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What makes someone laugh…I’d go with understanding that every time. Finding they enjoy food, have a great sense of fun & enjoy a little physical entertainment…yeah that’s all good stuff, but whats best to me, I guess, is the joy in discovery…
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Nice. I agree. It’s best to enjoy the process. (At least try to!)
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Sitting thinking over your primary statement ‘What do men really want to know…’ I’m a guy so maybe should be in a good place to know…but you know what i find it hard to answer what is most often specifically felt rather than generalised. Thanks for making me think…
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